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Som skild med barn s\u00e5 kommer det att komma en f\u00f6rsta julafton utan barnen. Julen d\u00e4r de spenderar tiden med sin andra f\u00f6r\u00e4lder (om man nu inte har lagt upp det p\u00e5 n\u00e5got annat s\u00e4tt). Hur som helst s\u00e5 kom den julen f\u00f6r mig i \u00e5r. Redan mycket tidigt k\u00e4nde jag att; d\u00e5 struntar jag i hela julen och g\u00f6r n\u00e5got helt annat. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00e5got helt annat, visade sig bli en resa till andra sidan jorden – Costa Rica n\u00e4rmare best\u00e4mt. Ett privilegierat val s\u00e5klart, men ett v\u00e4rde som trots det inte r\u00e4ttvist kan placeras i den andra v\u00e5gsk\u00e5len till den sk\u00e5l med h\u00f6gtiden tillsammans med sina barn. Olika saker, ja ni f\u00f6rst\u00e5r. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Varf\u00f6r ber\u00e4ttar jag det h\u00e4r? Jo f\u00f6r jag vill hylla den spontana repliken som en kanadensisk dam gav mig. P\u00e5 sj\u00e4lvaste julafton och allt. Vi var ute och seglade ett stort sammansatt g\u00e4ng d\u00e4r vi inte k\u00e4nde varandra sedan tidigare. Medan min pojkv\u00e4n (manv\u00e4n?) var ute och snorklade s\u00e5 m\u00f6tte jag den h\u00e4r kvinnan och vi b\u00f6rjade samtala med varandra. Kvinnan var kanske femton \u00e5r \u00e4ldre \u00e4n mig och vi pratade lite om ditten och datten, v\u00e4der och vind. Kvinnan och hennes make hade bland annat firat jul tillsammans med sina vuxna barn veckan innan och skulle nu semestra i Centralamerika i tv\u00e5 veckor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jag som b\u00f6rjade n\u00e4rma mig slutet av min resa ber\u00e4ttade s\u00e5ledes om v\u00e5ra \u00e4ventyr som vi hade varit med om, do and don’ts och s\u00e5 vidare. Upprymt! Men s\u00e5 beskrev jag \u00e4ven v\u00e5r kringsituation med det faktum att det var den f\u00f6rsta julen tillsammans utan v\u00e5ra barn, att vi tv\u00e5 funnit varandra och varf\u00f6r vi hade hamnat h\u00e4r – p\u00e5 en b\u00e5t i Stilla havet. Men mer i en bisats \u00e4nd\u00e5. Men det fina n\u00e4r jag ber\u00e4ttade om barnen, de tre flickorna som vid tillf\u00e4llet var hemma och firade sina julaftonar med sina respektive sl\u00e4kter, s\u00e5 k\u00e4nde kvinnan in n\u00e5got. Eller s\u00e5 var det livserfarenheten som talade. Hur som spelade det ingen roll att vi varken k\u00e4nde varandra s\u00e4rskilt v\u00e4l eller att vi hade levt v\u00e5ra liv p\u00e5 varsina kontinenter. Hon sa spontant;<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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”You know you are allow to have fun, right?”<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Jag tar kvinnans ord med mig och s\u00e4ger dem vidare till dig och dig och dig. You are allow to have fun. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Helena <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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